Dating Over 40 - How to Get Started Online

How to Start Dating Online


So, you work in an all female office building and nobody you know has one single friend to fix you up with? Hate drinking and can’t dance to save your life? What is a dateless girl to do? Before you start cruising the grocery stores trying to pick up hungry bachelors in the frozen food aisle, consider online dating. With a little planning, a good profile and some luck thrown in, the man of your dreams might be as close as your computer screen.


The first step, of course, is to decide which online dating site you will use. There are countless sites to choose from. One man I know views online dating like a job. He belongs to several sites and keeps notebooks with notations about profiles and his hits and misses. The man is totally obsessed. That is an extreme case, so don’t let that scare you off. Select a few sites by reputation and then narrow it down to the one that you can best afford. Remember, you are going to be dating now, you are going to need new shoes. Budget wisely.


Once you have selected the site, the next step is your picture. The first thing that people will look at is the photo. If yours is great, you could practically describe beating your mailman to death with a bagful of kittens and you will still get a handful of responses. Okay, so those responses are from people you want to say far, far away from, but you get the point. Pick a picture that highlights your best facial feature, like your sparkling eyes or your perfect smile. Try not to use that glamour shot that you got last year at the mall though, especially if a light brushing of mascara and some lip balm is your idea of putting on make up. Use a flattering, but truthful, realistic picture.


After the right picture is found, you will need to write a good, eye catching profile. Again, try to be honest and don't oversell yourself. Remember, you do want to meet some of these people in real life. Avoid over the top, million dollar words that you would not use in regular conversation. Try to remain upbeat but not annoyingly perky. In the section marked “pets” list what you have and be done with it. Now is not the time to spill your guts about every precious thing that little Sparky has done. Check the box and move along.


Consider online dating to be a process not a miracle maker. Just as you are not going to wake up one day to find that you have been declared CEO of your company, you are not going to log on and find a love connection with the first man that you date. You might find yourself repeating the same process over and over until you finally get it right. You go back and forth with the emails, answering questions and reading responses, until you get to the answer that is the deal breaker. You move on to the next match and start all over again. You might even get to the part where you even get to meet someone in real life. Maybe he is the one for you, maybe not, but that is what dating is all about whether it is online or not. It is a gamble. You roll the dice, sometimes you get snake eyes and sometimes you hit the jackpot.

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