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If you’re over the age of 40, you may not think the online dating scene has very much to offer you. But you would be wrong!
Not only are people 30 years old and younger signing up for online dating services memberships in record numbers, so are people much older than that. So if you’re a little more, shall we say, mature, you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find yourself in good company on an online dating service website.
Actually, the company may be so good, that you can finally tell your nosey friends to bug off and stop trying to fix you up. You can make your own dates using an online dating service, and they’ll be dates you’ll really want to go out on because online dating services give you the chance to get to know people before you go to the trouble and expense of going out on a date. Now, you can’t do that with that blind date your friend Sue keeps trying to set you up with, thank goodness.
And you don’t have to worry about security and confidentiality on online dating websites. All your personal information is kept personal until you’re ready, if you ever are, to divulge it. If someone falls head over heels in love with you and they start bugging you, you can have that person blocked from contacting you. Too, if at anytime you feel someone is being abusive or threatening in any way, you can report them, and many online dating services will revoke the threatening person’s membership.
So online dating is safe and secure, it must be hard, right? Nothing could be further from the truth. You simply fill out the membership form, pay, post your profile and picture if desired, then BOOM! You’re in the online dating business!
What could be better! Well, just the fact that you can place yourself in a category or sign up at a special online dating service site that lets you be a bit more selective in the other mature or senior singles you’d like to connect with. For example, there are Jewish online dating services, Asian online dating services, and Christian online dating services just to name a few. You can even sign up for particular cities through websites devoted to them. Atlanta online dating services, Cincinnati online dating services, New York online dating services and Nashville online dating services are just a few examples. And while your own city may not have an online dating service of its own, you can check into dating services of larger cities close to you.
So what are you waiting for? The significant other of your dreams is just a mouse click away!
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Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Online dating - mistakes that most men make
In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you’re going about things the right way.
Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don’t worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It’s hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don’t do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off “undesirables”. Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don’t want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like “no time wasters” are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think “I feel like wasting someone’s time today”. The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like “no fat chicks”, “no old hags” etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it’s good to include information about your ideal woman, don’t let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it’s good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don’t come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like “I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs” sounds much better than “I want to meet fit women”.
Going on about your ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It’s a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don’t fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won’t be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn’t believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it’s best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it’s best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It’s worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don’t act like you’re married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It’s somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it’s best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don’t expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Dating can be quite an experience, especially for us mature adults! Just because we’re older doesn’t mean we can’t have fun! We are getting better at everything, right? Find out what your missing if you need dating advice by going to over 50 dating
Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don’t worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It’s hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don’t do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off “undesirables”. Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don’t want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like “no time wasters” are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think “I feel like wasting someone’s time today”. The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like “no fat chicks”, “no old hags” etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it’s good to include information about your ideal woman, don’t let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it’s good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don’t come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like “I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs” sounds much better than “I want to meet fit women”.
Going on about your ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It’s a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don’t fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won’t be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn’t believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it’s best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it’s best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It’s worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don’t act like you’re married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It’s somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it’s best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don’t expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Dating can be quite an experience, especially for us mature adults! Just because we’re older doesn’t mean we can’t have fun! We are getting better at everything, right? Find out what your missing if you need dating advice by going to over 50 dating
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Over 50 Online Dating- How to Protect your privacy on the Internet
Online dating is becoming more and more mainstream, as people from all walks of life plug in and find their soul mate in cyberspace. Here are six tips to finding that special someone while still maintaining your privacy and safety online.
1. Avoid large, public chat rooms where anything can (and does!) take place. Some people frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, focus on smaller, more targeted web sites or chat rooms that match your interests or lifestyle. There are many online dating sites that cater to specific hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.
2. When you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that matches your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable giving. Don't plaster your phone number, address or any other personal information on the site. Wait until you meet someone with whom you truly "click" and have spoken to them for awhile. Common sense and that "gut feeling" are great indicators for when something just doesn't seem quite right.
3. Participate in the forum or chat room regularly. Keep it "low-key" until you start forming friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself - after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular mate.
4. Keep your correspondence limited to e-mail and chat until you get to know the person well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and talking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, start off the chat by talking about the forum or chat room where you met and any special interests that brought you two together.
5. If you decide to meet each other in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that's not the same as the one where you live. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public places where people gather often are a good place to start. Alternately, you could choose to attend a special event in your area together, perhaps a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let friends or family know where you're going and who you're going with, as well as what time you'll be returning so they'll know how and where to reach you.
6. If you're interested in a few online "matches" that come your way, consider setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to find that you really don't "click" with this person, you won't feel as if you've given any personal contact information away.
If you follow these six tips, chances are you'll have a great time with your cyber date and have a successful experience with online dating.
Dating can be quite an experience, especially for us mature adults! Just because we’re older doesn’t mean we can’t have fun! We are getting better at everything, right? Find out what your missing if you need dating advice by going to over 50 dating web now!
1. Avoid large, public chat rooms where anything can (and does!) take place. Some people frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, focus on smaller, more targeted web sites or chat rooms that match your interests or lifestyle. There are many online dating sites that cater to specific hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.
2. When you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that matches your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable giving. Don't plaster your phone number, address or any other personal information on the site. Wait until you meet someone with whom you truly "click" and have spoken to them for awhile. Common sense and that "gut feeling" are great indicators for when something just doesn't seem quite right.
3. Participate in the forum or chat room regularly. Keep it "low-key" until you start forming friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself - after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular mate.
4. Keep your correspondence limited to e-mail and chat until you get to know the person well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and talking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, start off the chat by talking about the forum or chat room where you met and any special interests that brought you two together.
5. If you decide to meet each other in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that's not the same as the one where you live. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public places where people gather often are a good place to start. Alternately, you could choose to attend a special event in your area together, perhaps a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let friends or family know where you're going and who you're going with, as well as what time you'll be returning so they'll know how and where to reach you.
6. If you're interested in a few online "matches" that come your way, consider setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to find that you really don't "click" with this person, you won't feel as if you've given any personal contact information away.
If you follow these six tips, chances are you'll have a great time with your cyber date and have a successful experience with online dating.
Dating can be quite an experience, especially for us mature adults! Just because we’re older doesn’t mean we can’t have fun! We are getting better at everything, right? Find out what your missing if you need dating advice by going to over 50 dating web now!
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Dating over 50 - online is the way to go!
Online dating is a great way for people to find love, but it’s not always as easy and straightforward as we would like it to be. Many people spend months trying to meet the person of their dreams on the Internet and get nowhere. The checklist below will help you troubleshoot your cyber dating experience if things are not going as well as you would like them to. Have you uploaded a picture?
We’d all like to be loved and appreciated for more than just our appearance, but the fact is, online daters like to know who they are talking to. Many people won’t bother contacting someone who hasn’t uploaded a picture, thinking that person obviously has something to hide. A good picture is one that shows people what you look like. Don’t be put off uploading one if you are not conventionally “beautiful”. Whatever you look like, it’s a safe bet to assume that people who look like you meet and fall in love all the time. Uploading a clear picture where you’re smiling and look friendly is your best bet. Headshots are best, with full body shots OK as a second picture. Uploading pictures of anything or anyone that is obviously not you will only damage your chances.
Your aim when writing a profile is to make people want to get to know you. With thousands or even millions of people on a dating site, putting up a profile that says nothing but “ask me”, won’t make anyone want to contact you, unless you are a beautiful woman and have uploaded a photo (in which case, only guys who are after sex would bother contacting you). Show people a bit about who you are by writing a profile they will actually want to read. Spend some time actually describing yourself, rather than just listing adjectives (such as “I’m generous, friendly, good cook” etc.) anyone can write the words “I’m funny” but not everyone can make you laugh.
Whether you are a man or a woman, it helps to get out there and contact people yourself. Online dating is fast moving us from the times when men were the ones who had to make first contact and women had to sit back and wait or be thought of as too “forward”. With so many thousands of people to choose from, the person you want to talk to may never have a chance to browse your profile unless you let them know you exist, so do it! Regardless of whether they’re interested in you or not, no one will ever hold it against you if you send him/her a message.
You think your profile is as good as can be, you’ve uploaded a friendly picture and have sent messages to as many people as you’ve seen but still no response. What now? The next questions to ask involve the way you communicate with others. Was your message too short? Just writing “hi” or other impersonal, short messages can make people think your message was not sent personally to them or that you didn’t feel they were worth spending a few more minutes coming up with something better to write. Try to write a couple of paragraphs and make the message sound like you’ve put some thought into it. Maybe comment on that person’s profile and say why you chose to contact him/her. Unless you are on a web site where the premise is people have come there looking for sex, don’t be too forward. It would most likely not be appreciated. These are only a few of the “rules” for online dating, stay tuned for many more!
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We’d all like to be loved and appreciated for more than just our appearance, but the fact is, online daters like to know who they are talking to. Many people won’t bother contacting someone who hasn’t uploaded a picture, thinking that person obviously has something to hide. A good picture is one that shows people what you look like. Don’t be put off uploading one if you are not conventionally “beautiful”. Whatever you look like, it’s a safe bet to assume that people who look like you meet and fall in love all the time. Uploading a clear picture where you’re smiling and look friendly is your best bet. Headshots are best, with full body shots OK as a second picture. Uploading pictures of anything or anyone that is obviously not you will only damage your chances.
Your aim when writing a profile is to make people want to get to know you. With thousands or even millions of people on a dating site, putting up a profile that says nothing but “ask me”, won’t make anyone want to contact you, unless you are a beautiful woman and have uploaded a photo (in which case, only guys who are after sex would bother contacting you). Show people a bit about who you are by writing a profile they will actually want to read. Spend some time actually describing yourself, rather than just listing adjectives (such as “I’m generous, friendly, good cook” etc.) anyone can write the words “I’m funny” but not everyone can make you laugh.
Whether you are a man or a woman, it helps to get out there and contact people yourself. Online dating is fast moving us from the times when men were the ones who had to make first contact and women had to sit back and wait or be thought of as too “forward”. With so many thousands of people to choose from, the person you want to talk to may never have a chance to browse your profile unless you let them know you exist, so do it! Regardless of whether they’re interested in you or not, no one will ever hold it against you if you send him/her a message.
You think your profile is as good as can be, you’ve uploaded a friendly picture and have sent messages to as many people as you’ve seen but still no response. What now? The next questions to ask involve the way you communicate with others. Was your message too short? Just writing “hi” or other impersonal, short messages can make people think your message was not sent personally to them or that you didn’t feel they were worth spending a few more minutes coming up with something better to write. Try to write a couple of paragraphs and make the message sound like you’ve put some thought into it. Maybe comment on that person’s profile and say why you chose to contact him/her. Unless you are on a web site where the premise is people have come there looking for sex, don’t be too forward. It would most likely not be appreciated. These are only a few of the “rules” for online dating, stay tuned for many more!
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
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Friday, February 26, 2010
Dating Over 40 - How to Get Started Online
How to Start Dating Online
So, you work in an all female office building and nobody you know has one single friend to fix you up with? Hate drinking and can’t dance to save your life? What is a dateless girl to do? Before you start cruising the grocery stores trying to pick up hungry bachelors in the frozen food aisle, consider online dating. With a little planning, a good profile and some luck thrown in, the man of your dreams might be as close as your computer screen.
The first step, of course, is to decide which online dating site you will use. There are countless sites to choose from. One man I know views online dating like a job. He belongs to several sites and keeps notebooks with notations about profiles and his hits and misses. The man is totally obsessed. That is an extreme case, so don’t let that scare you off. Select a few sites by reputation and then narrow it down to the one that you can best afford. Remember, you are going to be dating now, you are going to need new shoes. Budget wisely.
Once you have selected the site, the next step is your picture. The first thing that people will look at is the photo. If yours is great, you could practically describe beating your mailman to death with a bagful of kittens and you will still get a handful of responses. Okay, so those responses are from people you want to say far, far away from, but you get the point. Pick a picture that highlights your best facial feature, like your sparkling eyes or your perfect smile. Try not to use that glamour shot that you got last year at the mall though, especially if a light brushing of mascara and some lip balm is your idea of putting on make up. Use a flattering, but truthful, realistic picture.
After the right picture is found, you will need to write a good, eye catching profile. Again, try to be honest and don't oversell yourself. Remember, you do want to meet some of these people in real life. Avoid over the top, million dollar words that you would not use in regular conversation. Try to remain upbeat but not annoyingly perky. In the section marked “pets” list what you have and be done with it. Now is not the time to spill your guts about every precious thing that little Sparky has done. Check the box and move along.
Consider online dating to be a process not a miracle maker. Just as you are not going to wake up one day to find that you have been declared CEO of your company, you are not going to log on and find a love connection with the first man that you date. You might find yourself repeating the same process over and over until you finally get it right. You go back and forth with the emails, answering questions and reading responses, until you get to the answer that is the deal breaker. You move on to the next match and start all over again. You might even get to the part where you even get to meet someone in real life. Maybe he is the one for you, maybe not, but that is what dating is all about whether it is online or not. It is a gamble. You roll the dice, sometimes you get snake eyes and sometimes you hit the jackpot.
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
Visit over 50 dating review and find out more!
So, you work in an all female office building and nobody you know has one single friend to fix you up with? Hate drinking and can’t dance to save your life? What is a dateless girl to do? Before you start cruising the grocery stores trying to pick up hungry bachelors in the frozen food aisle, consider online dating. With a little planning, a good profile and some luck thrown in, the man of your dreams might be as close as your computer screen.
The first step, of course, is to decide which online dating site you will use. There are countless sites to choose from. One man I know views online dating like a job. He belongs to several sites and keeps notebooks with notations about profiles and his hits and misses. The man is totally obsessed. That is an extreme case, so don’t let that scare you off. Select a few sites by reputation and then narrow it down to the one that you can best afford. Remember, you are going to be dating now, you are going to need new shoes. Budget wisely.
Once you have selected the site, the next step is your picture. The first thing that people will look at is the photo. If yours is great, you could practically describe beating your mailman to death with a bagful of kittens and you will still get a handful of responses. Okay, so those responses are from people you want to say far, far away from, but you get the point. Pick a picture that highlights your best facial feature, like your sparkling eyes or your perfect smile. Try not to use that glamour shot that you got last year at the mall though, especially if a light brushing of mascara and some lip balm is your idea of putting on make up. Use a flattering, but truthful, realistic picture.
After the right picture is found, you will need to write a good, eye catching profile. Again, try to be honest and don't oversell yourself. Remember, you do want to meet some of these people in real life. Avoid over the top, million dollar words that you would not use in regular conversation. Try to remain upbeat but not annoyingly perky. In the section marked “pets” list what you have and be done with it. Now is not the time to spill your guts about every precious thing that little Sparky has done. Check the box and move along.
Consider online dating to be a process not a miracle maker. Just as you are not going to wake up one day to find that you have been declared CEO of your company, you are not going to log on and find a love connection with the first man that you date. You might find yourself repeating the same process over and over until you finally get it right. You go back and forth with the emails, answering questions and reading responses, until you get to the answer that is the deal breaker. You move on to the next match and start all over again. You might even get to the part where you even get to meet someone in real life. Maybe he is the one for you, maybe not, but that is what dating is all about whether it is online or not. It is a gamble. You roll the dice, sometimes you get snake eyes and sometimes you hit the jackpot.
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
Visit over 50 dating review and find out more!
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Dating over 40 - start your search out right!
Ok, so you have decided to take the plunge and start dating again, possibly against your better judgment. But where do you start? It’s not like you’re a kid anymore, so you can’t just peddle on down to the school and hang out for the afternoon, hoping to meet someone new. There are many questions like this that the over 50 crowd have when they first start dating after a divorce or loss of a spouse, and I’m hoping to give you some ideas in this article on where to go to get started.
First of all, forget all of the “horror” stories you’ve heard about dating from your friends. Are some of them true? I’m sure they are, but if you take a few precautions and do some planning ahead, you should be able to avoid these nightmare first dates. Remember, finding and meeting the right person may just involve an element of luck, too. But if you are prepared, sometimes you make your own luck, right? I always believe in that premise, and it rarely fails me.
There are countless ways to meet new people, and many times you don’t even have to be looking, just paying attention! But if you really want to tempt fate, here are some great ways to get out there and start the search:
Church – It’s been said many times, and it’s probably true. If you want to meet a “nice” guy or lady, go to your local church. Not a member of any church? Even better, look in your local community directory or website for one close by, and take it upon yourself to check it out. That is one place that new people are always welcome.
Clubs/organizations – There are many different kinds of clubs you can join, some you probably have never heard of. Of course you probably want to start with a hobby – such as a sport, stamp collecting, mountain climbing, jogging, book club, there are probably a hundred different clubs you could join. And they are a great way to meet someone with the same interests!
Speed Dating – Yes I can hear you already. Most people our age shudder at the thought of something so “competitive” sounding as speed dating, but many people find it very stimulating. It is a great way to meet a lot of people at once, which is somewhat intimidating for some. The question is, how badly do you want to meet someone? Be bold, be daring!
Personal Ads – There still are many local newspapers out there that have personal ads for folks to post, and now there are also the online version. The ones in newspapers cost a few dollars, but it’s just another way to get your hook in the water, so to speak.
Internet Dating – This is the big one now that the internet is so prolific, nearly everyone in this country from 5-year olds to 80 year-olds have an email account, right? Ok, not everyone. But internet dating is one of the easiest ways to meet someone, since you have complete anonymity until you want to actually meet in person. Research has found that 43 percent of people age 55 or older believe it is possible for people to meet via the Internet and fall in love. And the prices vary, but for the most part even the better dating services are around $25 per month depending on how long you subscribe to the service. Be careful which service you choose, some have better options and are more complete. A free trial is normally offered for 30 days, so that is a good idea to try things out first.
All in all, it’s up to you. Depending on what you personally feel comfortable with and can afford, these are probably the best methods to meet new people besides just wandering around the mall on a Saturday afternoon. Come to think of it, add that to the list! Be creative, talk to friends, and find out where the single folks are at for your age group. You may be surprised, they don’t all sit at home!
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First of all, forget all of the “horror” stories you’ve heard about dating from your friends. Are some of them true? I’m sure they are, but if you take a few precautions and do some planning ahead, you should be able to avoid these nightmare first dates. Remember, finding and meeting the right person may just involve an element of luck, too. But if you are prepared, sometimes you make your own luck, right? I always believe in that premise, and it rarely fails me.
There are countless ways to meet new people, and many times you don’t even have to be looking, just paying attention! But if you really want to tempt fate, here are some great ways to get out there and start the search:
Church – It’s been said many times, and it’s probably true. If you want to meet a “nice” guy or lady, go to your local church. Not a member of any church? Even better, look in your local community directory or website for one close by, and take it upon yourself to check it out. That is one place that new people are always welcome.
Clubs/organizations – There are many different kinds of clubs you can join, some you probably have never heard of. Of course you probably want to start with a hobby – such as a sport, stamp collecting, mountain climbing, jogging, book club, there are probably a hundred different clubs you could join. And they are a great way to meet someone with the same interests!
Speed Dating – Yes I can hear you already. Most people our age shudder at the thought of something so “competitive” sounding as speed dating, but many people find it very stimulating. It is a great way to meet a lot of people at once, which is somewhat intimidating for some. The question is, how badly do you want to meet someone? Be bold, be daring!
Personal Ads – There still are many local newspapers out there that have personal ads for folks to post, and now there are also the online version. The ones in newspapers cost a few dollars, but it’s just another way to get your hook in the water, so to speak.
Internet Dating – This is the big one now that the internet is so prolific, nearly everyone in this country from 5-year olds to 80 year-olds have an email account, right? Ok, not everyone. But internet dating is one of the easiest ways to meet someone, since you have complete anonymity until you want to actually meet in person. Research has found that 43 percent of people age 55 or older believe it is possible for people to meet via the Internet and fall in love. And the prices vary, but for the most part even the better dating services are around $25 per month depending on how long you subscribe to the service. Be careful which service you choose, some have better options and are more complete. A free trial is normally offered for 30 days, so that is a good idea to try things out first.
All in all, it’s up to you. Depending on what you personally feel comfortable with and can afford, these are probably the best methods to meet new people besides just wandering around the mall on a Saturday afternoon. Come to think of it, add that to the list! Be creative, talk to friends, and find out where the single folks are at for your age group. You may be surprised, they don’t all sit at home!
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
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Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Dating online - know what you want, get what you want!
Good Day,
In this post I would like to point out just a few tried and true tips on how to make your dating experience a little smoother. As we get older, we get a lot wiser! So show your wisdom by doing some planning in advance, so when you do seriously start meeting people for the first time in years, you will have a good idea what to do, what your looking for, and how to make your expectations known ahead of time so neither one of you waste your time. So with that in mind, here goes!
• Know what you want/don’t want: As easy as it may sound, many people make the mistake of going out in search of a date or a romantic partner without so much as a clue about what it is that they are looking for. The first thing you need to do before trying to find a date is to outline precisely what you want in a date and even more importantly, what it is that you don’t want. Develop a list of dating deal breakers or things that you are not willing to compromise on.
• Know what you have to offer: Dating is a give and take that should ideally be as balanced as possible so it is absolutely essential that you actually have something to offer. Always remember that you very often get what you give.
• Develop a plan of action: Think about the best ways for you to meet potential dates. Consider what social opportunities you might take advantage of and in what ways you will use the resources available at your disposal.
• Go for what you want: Armed with a solid understanding of what you want and a plan for how to go about making those desires a reality, you are then ready to get out there and make it happen. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work out exactly as planned and you get shot down every now and then. Remember that even though they might sometimes feel like speed bumps in the road, set backs are really nothing more than opportunities for progress; it all depends on how you decide to use them.
And one other thing I forgot to mention, don’t forget that there are plenty of fish in sea, as they say. Don’t think you have any time-table to meet someone - have fun and just get out there and do it! Like anything, dating takes practice. So get some practice, ok? Pretty soon you will find the right one for you, as long as you keep positive and keep looking.
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
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In this post I would like to point out just a few tried and true tips on how to make your dating experience a little smoother. As we get older, we get a lot wiser! So show your wisdom by doing some planning in advance, so when you do seriously start meeting people for the first time in years, you will have a good idea what to do, what your looking for, and how to make your expectations known ahead of time so neither one of you waste your time. So with that in mind, here goes!
• Know what you want/don’t want: As easy as it may sound, many people make the mistake of going out in search of a date or a romantic partner without so much as a clue about what it is that they are looking for. The first thing you need to do before trying to find a date is to outline precisely what you want in a date and even more importantly, what it is that you don’t want. Develop a list of dating deal breakers or things that you are not willing to compromise on.
• Know what you have to offer: Dating is a give and take that should ideally be as balanced as possible so it is absolutely essential that you actually have something to offer. Always remember that you very often get what you give.
• Develop a plan of action: Think about the best ways for you to meet potential dates. Consider what social opportunities you might take advantage of and in what ways you will use the resources available at your disposal.
• Go for what you want: Armed with a solid understanding of what you want and a plan for how to go about making those desires a reality, you are then ready to get out there and make it happen. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work out exactly as planned and you get shot down every now and then. Remember that even though they might sometimes feel like speed bumps in the road, set backs are really nothing more than opportunities for progress; it all depends on how you decide to use them.
And one other thing I forgot to mention, don’t forget that there are plenty of fish in sea, as they say. Don’t think you have any time-table to meet someone - have fun and just get out there and do it! Like anything, dating takes practice. So get some practice, ok? Pretty soon you will find the right one for you, as long as you keep positive and keep looking.
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
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Dating for the over 40 crowd - online is the way to go
Hello,
So you have found yourself dating again, for whatever reason, for the first time in many years? Well, you might be surprised at how common the situation is these days. Yes the statistics show that there are more unattached adults over the age of 50 than ever before, due to higher divorce rate, longer life-spans, and a tendency for some to put off marriage until later in life. When you consider that of the 97 million Americans who are 45 or older, nearly a full 40 percent or 36.2 million claim to be single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. That makes the odds a little better, doesn’t it?
Since the vast majority of these single folks are baby-boomers, that means that many businesses are already targeting them. Yes, that’s a large group of people, most of whom are middle to upper-middle class, fairly well educated, and willing to try new things if it means a shot at happiness. Which is another reason that dating at this age is a bit easier, since it is very common. Not only that, there is a cottage industry of dating services both offline and online to meet the demand. So whatever you’re comfortable with, you will surely find a way to meet someone!
One way that dating for the older crowd is easier is that we tend to know ourselves much better now, at least in comparison to when we were in our twenties or even thirties. Some recent research has also pointed out that we tend to be more practical than the younger daters, rather than only considering the emotional issues involved with dating someone. Over 50 daters tend to think that there is more than one “perfect mate” or soul mate out there, rather than waiting for the perfect person that may not exist (who are we kidding?) This means our expectations are more in line with reality, rather than some fantasy we had when we were young.
Another reason dating over 40 is a bit easier is that we have our careers pretty much nailed down by now, unless of course you are one of the “career-switchers” that are more common these days. However, the rule seems to be that by this age, most people are pretty settled on a career and at least somewhat happy in their choices. That means much more time and energy to spend on finding the right person to spend time with, which is good. It does take both time and energy, and some perseverance as well, to launch a hunt for that new relationship.
Of course by this age we’re well aware that nothing is free or easy, right?
And lastly, the over 40 crowd tends to have a good amount of people skills by this time. Most have dealt with many different types of people, usually through the work environment, and are better judges of people than when they were younger. That doesn’t mean we can’t be fooled, of course. But with age comes experience and nothing can replace it, so this is another big plus for most of us. If you haven’t had to deal with people in your job or social life recently, brushing up on these skills is usually like riding a bike as they say. It won’t be long before you will comfortably talking to the single men/ladies again with ease. Right?
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
Visit over 50 dating review and find out more!
So you have found yourself dating again, for whatever reason, for the first time in many years? Well, you might be surprised at how common the situation is these days. Yes the statistics show that there are more unattached adults over the age of 50 than ever before, due to higher divorce rate, longer life-spans, and a tendency for some to put off marriage until later in life. When you consider that of the 97 million Americans who are 45 or older, nearly a full 40 percent or 36.2 million claim to be single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. That makes the odds a little better, doesn’t it?
Since the vast majority of these single folks are baby-boomers, that means that many businesses are already targeting them. Yes, that’s a large group of people, most of whom are middle to upper-middle class, fairly well educated, and willing to try new things if it means a shot at happiness. Which is another reason that dating at this age is a bit easier, since it is very common. Not only that, there is a cottage industry of dating services both offline and online to meet the demand. So whatever you’re comfortable with, you will surely find a way to meet someone!
One way that dating for the older crowd is easier is that we tend to know ourselves much better now, at least in comparison to when we were in our twenties or even thirties. Some recent research has also pointed out that we tend to be more practical than the younger daters, rather than only considering the emotional issues involved with dating someone. Over 50 daters tend to think that there is more than one “perfect mate” or soul mate out there, rather than waiting for the perfect person that may not exist (who are we kidding?) This means our expectations are more in line with reality, rather than some fantasy we had when we were young.
Another reason dating over 40 is a bit easier is that we have our careers pretty much nailed down by now, unless of course you are one of the “career-switchers” that are more common these days. However, the rule seems to be that by this age, most people are pretty settled on a career and at least somewhat happy in their choices. That means much more time and energy to spend on finding the right person to spend time with, which is good. It does take both time and energy, and some perseverance as well, to launch a hunt for that new relationship.
Of course by this age we’re well aware that nothing is free or easy, right?
And lastly, the over 40 crowd tends to have a good amount of people skills by this time. Most have dealt with many different types of people, usually through the work environment, and are better judges of people than when they were younger. That doesn’t mean we can’t be fooled, of course. But with age comes experience and nothing can replace it, so this is another big plus for most of us. If you haven’t had to deal with people in your job or social life recently, brushing up on these skills is usually like riding a bike as they say. It won’t be long before you will comfortably talking to the single men/ladies again with ease. Right?
If you thought that because you're getting older means life is over, wake up! It's just getting better for some folks. Even if you haven't dated in years, you can start again with a little advice and encouragement. Sign up for my newsletter, read these great lenses, and get started now on a new adventure and a new life!
Visit over 50 dating review and find out more!
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